People are making careers out of relationship advice. Some of these people have really important things to say. Some of these people are peddling bull shit. Some of them are selling step by step instructions on what to say, how to dress, how to act, and who to be.
I will admit that I’ve watched some of these videos. I like Matthew Hussey’s lecture about how ridiculous unrequited love is. I love Derrick Jaxn’s video about recognizing a grown ass man. Actually, I love all of Derrick Jaxn’s videos. That man talking about the value of a single mother is my very own version of hardcore porn. But some of these gurus take it a little too far. Some of these people are like vultures, preying on the desperation of lonely cat ladies everywhere.
Some of these videos contain beautiful advice. I’m always an advocate for gaining knowledge. But where do we draw the line? Doesn’t it seem a little crazy to pay for someone else’s word-for-word text messages? How in the actual fuck is someone supposed to get to know you when you communicate with someone else’s words? How is a marriage supposed to work when one partner literally tricked the other partner into love and commitment? What does this say about love?
I will tell you what this says about love. It says that we can fall in love with anyone, if we want to fall in love. It has everything to do with timing and very little to do with our hearts. The number one concept that is talked about amongst all of these gurus? In order to get a man to commit, you have to find a man who is ready to commit. And so there you have it, when it’s time….it’s time. Just like death.
But here’s the beauty in that concept. This also means that you can fall out of love with anyone as well. Love is a fucking choice, not a fated event. You can give it and take it from anyone you choose. The key has always been about finding someone worthy of your time, who also believes that you are worthy of theirs. Time, however, can be a real bitch.
Here are five of the very best relationship advice videos that I have ever seen….